We feel a need for others to give us conformation of who we are or what we are. We seek out that conformation form others.
If there are more then one or two other people then satisfying all of them can become impossible as they may all want something different.
You have to take care of yourself. “I will be myself and let other expect that.”
Trust your own guidance. Be where and what you are. Let others fallow you and know to expect that.